Getting better at backhand?

Work on both.  Don't just put all your focus on one stroke or you will do exacly what you're doing now, taking away from the others.  The motion for doing a backhand is very similar to throwing a frisbee, so if i'm not doing well on that side i think of that motion and make sure it's close to it.  Just keep working on both FH and BH, do drills, and get some help or coaching if it is available. 

Well then since your resources are limited just try to get in as many repetitions and remember the frisbee type motion.  Where are you from?

I live in Pittsburgh Pa and the i have been wantingto go to a club but i never get to becuase i wrestle and have practice everyday so i cant go until the summer . Ialso dotnknow of any coaches in the area

It can help to do what is called "one and one", where you do one fh and then one bh, just have your partner place the ball alternately to your fh then your bh.
Sometimes people change their grip when just focusing on one side at a time, the "one and one" will help to prevent this, and also improve your ability to transition from fh to bh in competition.

take it slow, theres no need to do very quick shots, just get the consitency there, if u feel u can up the pace with little or no error, go for it. otherwise, aim for reps and consistency, which is sooo important in modern table tennis.

we all know kong linghui is very consistent in his shots, fh, bh pushes etc. and u think, how is it that hes able to beat the power players like primorac, ma lin [back in the old days].

yep sure its placement, but this is all through consistency, trying to get the ball on the table, and obviously if its a good ball, just whack that sucker to oblivion.